What makes a “perfect” relationship or marraige?

“No relationship is perfect, but within an imperfect relationship you can still find perfect happiness”

-          Unknown author

  Disclaimer: I am not professional of any sort, I do not give “professional”  or  “medical” advice, my blogs are simply my religious beliefs, biblical devotions, and personal opinions

We live in a world where social media, television, and everything in between influences our perspectives on what we think the ideal marriage or relationship should look like. We are taught that being vulnerable around our spouse is portraying weakness and that expressing true emotions is an “ick”. Let’s be real for a second— a lot of us have a fairytale image of marriage thrown in our faces, the image of constant romance.

The complexities of real-life are REAL and it’s so important to have someone that can go through life with you and face the complexities. Someone that can communicate with you.

The truth is that often you will have to offer understanding, you will have to learn to listen, and most importantly you will need to learn to value each other’s opinion. You can hold on to opinions and your core values, it just requires consideration of the other person when discussing things that are important to you.

Throughout the years of dating and marriage there will be many different versions of yourself and your spouse that you will have to learn to love. People do not stay the same. People do not grow and change on the same page either— which is where the complexities of experiencing differences come in.

That same 25-year-old woman that you once were is not the same as the 35-year-old woman you have become..

When you have reached a new chapter in life it can be a challenge- there will be times that patience won’t come easy and offering support during those times can be very difficult.

However, being able to share how you truly feel openly and respectfully with your spouse is crucial.

33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”.

Ephesians 5:33

Respecting your husband seems like it should be easy, but it requires patience when you can’t agree on a subject. My opinion is taking a step away from the conversation when it is going in circles and come back to it after you both have had time to collect your thoughts and emotions.

A solid foundation of trust and love for one another has to exist, but your marriage and your relationship must also include God in every avenue.

A verse for anyone thinking of getting married and are currently married:

“And the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate”.

Mark 10:8-9

How powerful is that verse? Its something to think about when the pressure of the world Is convincing us daily that if the marriage no longer “suits” us, to leave.

Healthy, God-fearing marriages and relationships take WORK.

As a wife of 10 years, I am thankful that God placed my husband in my life.

I pray for our marriages, God. I pray that you will guide our hearts to always be a respectful spouse to one another. To hear the needs of one another and to put you first in all things. I pray that when we fail, you will soften our hearts towards one another and bring us back closer to one another and to your word.

God, please help us to maintain our playful hearts that attracted us to one another even though we experience the changes of life.

Please continue to bless our marriage, God.

-Amen